Comments for Grow your business and make more money with Pete Miller as your Speakers Coach http://speakerscoach.net This blog by Pete Miller, Professional Public Speaking Coach, Speaker and MC covers Speaking & Selling on Stage, Presentation Skills, Master of Ceremonies, Vocal Power, how to persuade the audience to like you and buy from you. Fri, 12 Dec 2008 07:01:26 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.3.3 Comment on The Book of Lists Fear of Public Speaking - What a Public Speaking Coach Thinks… by Yohann http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-131 Yohann Tue, 29 Jul 2008 18:30:52 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-131 I tend to agree as well - I've heard SO many times fear of public speaking as number 1 fear, number 2 being death. Kind of silly. YET... I doubt the real fear is the public speaking itself. Let's talk of real fears instead: how's fear or rejection for starters ? Fear of ridicule ? And most people can think back to some time they made a public impression... and where shamed, ridiculed, rejected. That's the real fear to me. And it IS pervasive. My 2 cents worth. Yohann I tend to agree as well - I’ve heard SO many times fear of public speaking as number 1 fear, number 2 being death. Kind of silly. YET…

I doubt the real fear is the public speaking itself. Let’s talk of real fears instead: how’s fear or rejection for starters ? Fear of ridicule ? And most people can think back to some time they made a public impression… and where shamed, ridiculed, rejected. That’s the real fear to me. And it IS pervasive.

My 2 cents worth.
Yohann

]]> Comment on The Book of Lists Fear of Public Speaking - What a Public Speaking Coach Thinks… by Jon http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-82 Jon Wed, 16 Jul 2008 01:53:22 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-82 Pete, I, too was baffled about the origin of this claim several years ago. I searched out the origin because I was crippled by fear of speaking. I cannot even recall where I found the basis behind the list, but it actually made sense to a point if the explanation I once found was accurate. It was not a survey where they asked people to rate fears, or things like that. It was more like a personality quiz where they asked a lot of questions in a variety of ways, and compiled data. In this way, statistics can be manipulated to say whatever you want them to. And it was probably asked of people who were attending classes on how to combat the fear of public speaking. Also, you take into consideration that we are a nation of faith. Around 80% of American profess some belief in a higher power. Most of those who believe in a higher power, believe in an afterlife...a heaven if you will...and funny enough most of those who actually believe in a heaven believe that they are going there. So death leads to something better. Public speaking is NOW, and if you die on stage (trip, stutter, forget what you were going to say, etc) they think that they will have to live with the embarrasment for the rest of their lives. Now, that being said, if you think that we have gotten over it a bit, I would say that you are dead wrong. I have discovered (quite by accident) that I have developed a passion for public speaking, and am now doing it professionally. One of my main seminars is "Fearless Speaking". In my experience, the fear is more common and stronger than ever. This is because that fear is handed down, and combating it has been taught wrong for generations, leading to strengthening our fear. Pete,

I, too was baffled about the origin of this claim several years ago. I searched out the origin because I was crippled by fear of speaking. I cannot even recall where I found the basis behind the list, but it actually made sense to a point if the explanation I once found was accurate.
It was not a survey where they asked people to rate fears, or things like that. It was more like a personality quiz where they asked a lot of questions in a variety of ways, and compiled data. In this way, statistics can be manipulated to say whatever you want them to. And it was probably asked of people who were attending classes on how to combat the fear of public speaking.
Also, you take into consideration that we are a nation of faith. Around 80% of American profess some belief in a higher power. Most of those who believe in a higher power, believe in an afterlife…a heaven if you will…and funny enough most of those who actually believe in a heaven believe that they are going there. So death leads to something better. Public speaking is NOW, and if you die on stage (trip, stutter, forget what you were going to say, etc) they think that they will have to live with the embarrasment for the rest of their lives.
Now, that being said, if you think that we have gotten over it a bit, I would say that you are dead wrong. I have discovered (quite by accident) that I have developed a passion for public speaking, and am now doing it professionally. One of my main seminars is “Fearless Speaking”. In my experience, the fear is more common and stronger than ever. This is because that fear is handed down, and combating it has been taught wrong for generations, leading to strengthening our fear.

]]> Comment on The Book of Lists Fear of Public Speaking - What a Public Speaking Coach Thinks… by Terry http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-74 Terry Tue, 08 Jul 2008 05:01:52 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-74 I've searched and searched for the source of this. It's amazing how many "well known facts" turn out to be nonsense. I don't know whether this was legit or not but I'm dubious. I'd like to know what the question was too. I fear death more than public speaking, but whereas public speaking is something I'm likely to be called on to do, I tend not to think of death as something that's likely to occur on any given day. So speaking is more likely to be on my mind as something to fear. I think the people in the survey (if it was ever done) should be presented with a choice between public execution and being pardoned if they are willing to plead for their life. The priorites might change. I’ve searched and searched for the source of this. It’s amazing how many “well known facts” turn out to be nonsense. I don’t know whether this was legit or not but I’m dubious.
I’d like to know what the question was too. I fear death more than public speaking, but whereas public speaking is something I’m likely to be called on to do, I tend not to think of death as something that’s likely to occur on any given day. So speaking is more likely to be on my mind as something to fear.
I think the people in the survey (if it was ever done) should be presented with a choice between public execution and being pardoned if they are willing to plead for their life. The priorites might change.

]]> Comment on Public Speaking Tips - The Difference Between a Speaker and an MC by Umaru Garba http://speakerscoach.net/speaking/public-speaking-tips-the-difference-between-a-speaker-and-an-mc#comment-61 Umaru Garba Mon, 23 Jun 2008 14:05:03 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/speaking/public-speaking-tips-the-difference-between-a-speaker-and-an-mc#comment-61 I teach Communication skills in a state polytechnic, but pay little attention to MC. I believe the little I learnt from this publication is tremendious I teach Communication skills in a state polytechnic, but pay little attention to MC. I believe the little I learnt from this publication is tremendious

]]> Comment on Public Speaking Tips from a Public Speaking Coach – Learn from an Actor by sasa http://speakerscoach.net/blog/public-speaking-tips-from-a-public-speaking-coach-%e2%80%93-learn-from-an-actor#comment-20 sasa Tue, 06 May 2008 15:00:48 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/public-speaking-tips-from-a-public-speaking-coach-%e2%80%93-learn-from-an-actor#comment-20 i agree with you, being a good communicator is one of the most important parts that you should develop in order to gain your audience's emotions. i agree with you, being a good communicator is one of the most important parts that you should develop in order to gain your audience’s emotions.

]]> Comment on Advice form a Public Speaking Coach - How to Overcome a Fear of Public Speaking by sasa http://speakerscoach.net/audio/advice-from-a-public-speaking-coach-how-to-overcome-a-fear-of-public-speaking#comment-19 sasa Tue, 06 May 2008 14:46:51 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/audio/advice-from-a-public-speaking-coach-how-to-overcome-a-fear-of-public-speaking#comment-19 hey. thank you pete: i believe that fear of public speaking is the number one fear in the united state, IMAGINE so i urge people to listen carfully to what you've said so forth. hey.
thank you pete: i believe that fear of public speaking is the number one fear in the united state, IMAGINE so i urge people to listen carfully to what you’ve said so forth.

]]> Comment on Public Speaking Tips from a Public Speaking Coach - Using Communication as an Art Form by sasa http://speakerscoach.net/audio/public-speaking-tips-from-a-public-speaking-coach-using-communication-as-an-art-form#comment-18 sasa Tue, 06 May 2008 14:41:16 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/audio/public-speaking-tips-from-a-public-speaking-coach-using-communication-as-an-art-form#comment-18 first of, thank you very much Pete for this audio. speaking in front of people is literally an art undoubtly, so u were right. first of, thank you very much Pete for this audio.

speaking in front of people is literally an art undoubtly, so u were right.

]]> Comment on A Professional Public Speakers says a Fear of Public Speaking is Different to Nerves by sasa http://speakerscoach.net/blog/a-public-speaking-coach-says-a-fear-of-public-speaking-is-different-to-nerves#comment-17 sasa Tue, 06 May 2008 14:37:03 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/a-public-speaking-coach-says-a-fear-of-public-speaking-is-different-to-nerves#comment-17 hey, i would like to add something as public speaking coach that feeling nervous is something very natural ,and actually no one can overcome it.so the only alternate is to learn how to deal with it. thanks hey,
i would like to add something as public speaking coach that feeling nervous is something very natural ,and actually no one can overcome it.so the only alternate is to learn how to deal with it.

thanks

]]> Comment on A Professional Public Speakers says a Fear of Public Speaking is Different to Nerves by Terry Gault http://speakerscoach.net/blog/a-public-speaking-coach-says-a-fear-of-public-speaking-is-different-to-nerves#comment-15 Terry Gault Fri, 02 May 2008 21:08:32 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/a-public-speaking-coach-says-a-fear-of-public-speaking-is-different-to-nerves#comment-15 Pete, I like your differentiation between fear of public speaking and nerves. On thing I would mention here is that it is crucial not to forget to breathe deeply! Not breathing deeply exacerbates any feeling of nervousness you may have. Also, your brain demands a fresh supply of oxygen. If you are not breathing properly, you are not thinking properly. Before a presentation, try practicing these breathing exercises: 1. Inhale slowly with your mouth closed on a measured four count. 2. Exhale slowly with your mouth closed on a measured four count. 3. Then slow it down even further to a 6, 8, or 10 count. This will help to calm your entire nervous system and will slow your heart rate. You will feel much calmer, your thinking will be much more lucid, and you will be able to communicate your ideas much more clearly in moments of stress. Thanks for the post! Terry Pete,

I like your differentiation between fear of public speaking and nerves.

On thing I would mention here is that it is crucial not to forget to breathe deeply! Not breathing deeply exacerbates any feeling of nervousness you may have. Also, your brain demands a fresh supply of oxygen. If you are not breathing properly, you are not thinking properly.

Before a presentation, try practicing these breathing exercises:
1. Inhale slowly with your mouth closed on a measured four count.
2. Exhale slowly with your mouth closed on a measured four count.
3. Then slow it down even further to a 6, 8, or 10 count.
This will help to calm your entire nervous system and will slow your heart rate. You will feel much calmer, your thinking will be much more lucid, and you will be able to communicate your ideas much more clearly in moments of stress.

Thanks for the post!
Terry

]]> Comment on The Book of Lists Fear of Public Speaking - What a Public Speaking Coach Thinks… by petemiller http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-7 petemiller Sat, 19 Apr 2008 23:06:20 +0000 http://speakerscoach.net/blog/the-book-of-lists-fear-of-public-speaking-what-a-public-speaking-coach-thinks#comment-7 Thanks for your comment Lisa - your support is much appreciated. Sometimes I feel like a lone crusader - so its good to know other coaches feel the same! You will enjoy a more in-depth short article (including this silly "death" one) about speaking clichés here: http://speakerscoach.org/public-speaking_docs/article_presentation_voice_coaching/speaking_cliches4.html Cheers from Pete Miller SpeakersCoach + MC Sign up for our Secrets of the Great Communicators newsletter at http://speakerscoach.org Thanks for your comment Lisa - your support is much appreciated.
Sometimes I feel like a lone crusader - so its good to know other coaches feel the same!

You will enjoy a more in-depth short article (including this silly “death” one)
about speaking clichés here:
http://speakerscoach.org/public-speaking_docs/article_presentation_voice_coaching/speaking_cliches4.html

Cheers from Pete Miller
SpeakersCoach + MC

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